Individual and group coaching
Topics, problems or conflicts that may be a particular burden for you in your professional environment, also show up again and again in your private context - and vice versa.
Men and daddy coaching
Anyone who at the same time thinks or is told that they should be the "super partner" or "super dad" puts themselves under immense pressure and thus becomes unfree.
Conflict clarification
A desired change is often only possible when it has been allowed to become "uncomfortable"
along the way.
INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP COACHING
„Hoping for change without doing anything about it yourself is like standing at a train station waiting for a ship to come in."
(Albert Einstein)
No matter if you want me to accompany or advise you alone or in a group: Why do I offer you "coaching" in general, and not call it "business coaching"? "Business coaching" may be on everyone's lips or sound "hip". We may as well call it that. However, my coaching and consulting experience has shown that issues, problems, or conflicts that may be bothering you particularly in your professional environment also show up again and again in your private context - and vice versa.
Does this surprise you, if we assume that we are holistic thinking, feeling and acting human beings? This perspective has a lot of good: Most of my clients succeed during and after our coaching process that change steps suddenly have a positive effect not only on the one area of life where the original "problem" appeared. Change is suddenly possible, in almost any context. And if not, then at least the attitude - towards others, but first and foremost towards yourself.
Among the classic topics or problems for which I am happy to coach and advise you individually or as a group are:
- Situations in which a (private or professional) decision is pending or the desire for a change exists
- Professional or personal issues that have arisen during or after the Corona Pandemic (e.g., caused by increased home office, lack of variety, challenges in the family context with homeschooling, etc.)
- "Business" coaching, e.g., coaching executives or individuals who may want to change careers
- Coaching in connection with signs of burnout (e.g., when you can no longer switch off, when rest is no longer possible, or when other physical or mental symptoms become apparent)
- Dealing with critical feedback, dealing with organizational change or other stress factors
- Consulting on group processes, group dynamics, support in group conflicts, etc.
MEN AND DADDY COACHING
„Men also have feelings. For example hunger or thirst." ;-)
Do women and men feel fundamentally different in general, in partnership matters or in connection with their role as parents? I don't want to make a blanket statement about that. But I do believe that allowing emotions or the way in which feelings are dealt with and talked about often differ from one another. If you think or are told at the same time that you have to be the "super partner" or "super dad", you put yourself under immense pressure. This is also the reason why I offer, in addition to classic "(business) coaching" and couples counseling, targeted "men and daddy coaching".
Coaching & Consulting on the topic of partnership
Entering into a partnership, the decision to move in together, perhaps the engagement and marriage - all these events are also for us men (hopefully!) associated with intense feelings. Besides very happy moments and thoughts, insecurity, doubts or fears can also arise. And as far as our needs are concerned, most of us will feel that, for example, situationally the "desire for freedom" competes with the "need for closeness". How do you deal with such ambivalence? And how do I communicate my needs adequately, how do I deal with my partner in this respect? That is exactly what everyone should find out for themselves. Coaching can be a good support here.
Coaching and counseling on the topic of being a dad / becoming a parent
At the latest, partnership discussions on the topic of "offspring" or the joint decision for or against having children probably trigger intense emotions even in the "supposedly most hard-boiled guy". The time during pregnancy and around the birth of a child can also be stressful, straining or even traumatizing for us men. While every year in Germany alone around 100,000 women fall into a mental crisis around childbirth, the mental effects of childbirth on men have hardly been studied so far.
However, it goes without saying that the time around birth is also a highly emotional exceptional situation for us men. Miscarriages, complications in the run-up and critical moments during birth, a life-threatening situation for one's own baby in the first hours of life - I have experienced all this myself and know how the experiences of helplessness, being overwhelmed or being alone feel in this context.
I believe that this is exactly why I am a valuable companion and coach for you. Whatever your individual concern may be: I look forward to the exchange!
CONFLICT CLARIFICATION
„Crisis is a productive state - it just needs to be stripped of the taint of disaster.“
(Max Frisch)
In the vast majority of cases, we do not count conflict among the pleasant aspects of our lives. For example, while the experience of conflict is clearly associated with unpleasant feelings or feelings that are perceived as difficult, such as anger, annoyance, disappointment, despair or paralysis, the thoughts associated with the topic of "conflict" are rather ambivalent. Some people associate conflict with crises, helplessness and trials and tribulations, while others see it more as an opportunity for development, for intensifying relationships and for creatively reshaping life situations, whether private or professional.
The common factor in all these different qualities is probably that the ideas of conflict are associated with a high degree of excitement and tension. This "heat", which is often associated with conflict, can lead to high levels of activity as well as to paralyzing tension, all individually different. The only thing that seems certain about these widely differing understandings of and attitudes toward conflict is that hardly anyone is truly neutral or unaffected in an interpersonal conflict (even though it may seem that way at first).
So you are probably entering "risky territory" when we address your conflicts, whether as an individual, as a couple, or within a group/team. I handle these "risks" with care in the process of conflict clarification together with you. And yet, I look - from a neutral perspective - fearlessly and unsparingly at precisely those aspects or issues that may initially feel "risky" or painful for you. According to the motto "eyes open and in" instead of "eyes closed and through". After all, a desired change is often only possible once it has been allowed to become "uncomfortable" along the way.
